There is one habit that I have encountered that is one of the most destructive and painful things our minds can do – comparison. Rating ourselves against others in a way that produces superiority or inferiority. Comparison kills love. Comparing ourselves creates separation and hinders our relationships, steals our success and our creativity. This is true whether we make a … Read More
Worship and Sexual Essence – Feminine
Worship – “the act of giving worth to something”. What is the connection between worship and sexual essence – feminine. When we hear the term ‘worship the divine feminine’ it may sound inspiring, strange or even intimidating. How can we worship another human being? One who may seem anything but divine if she is tired, critical, moody or down on herself. … Read More
Worship and Sexual Essence – Masculine
Worship – “the act of giving worth to something”. How do we integrate worship and sexual essence – masculine, combining the sacred and the ordinary? Recently I saw a ‘shiva lingam’* in nature. On a wild beach a branch was set upright into a tree trunk base. It was a powerful symbol and I felt spontaneously moved to adorn it. … Read More
4 Myths of Masculine & Feminine Essence
Dissolving 4 myths of masculine & feminine essence that are currently predominating and causing confusion. Myth 1. We are best when we have a balance of masculine and feminine A balance would have us all being equally masculine and feminine in our energy, and while we are equal, we are not the same. This neutrality would give no polarity between … Read More
Energy traps and delights
Our masculine and feminine essences bring promises and pitfalls, energy traps and delights. And it’s often just a whisker that makes the difference between what creates more love and what creates suffering. Knowing your masculine and feminine essence, self-inquiry and feedback from your trustable peers is very helpful. Here I have outlined a few key energy traps and energy delights … Read More
Freedom is sexy
What is freedom? Basically it is the liberty to direct the course of our own life, to move around freely, to make our own decisions. Freedom is so valuable that we take it away as the ultimate punishment for criminals. And the experience of inner freedom is highly sought after. People who have achieved inner freedom are sexy. And powerful. We can feel … Read More
5 signs of reverse polarity
Reverse polarity can wreck your love life. It is often hard to recognise as a cause of relational stress. This is because it can look like the usual conflicts and problems caused by different personality or attachment styles. However, once you recognise it, then you can do something about it. 5 signs of reverse polarity in a relationship or dating are: 1. Constantly feeling … Read More
The Union of Masculine and Feminine
The desire for love and the erotic union of masculine and feminine runs deep, and yet there is little teaching in how to actually achieve this. And what teaching or information we do have is primarily misguided. We have been told that continual intimacy, complete honesty, and sharing everything with your partner makes for great relationship. But the truth is this doesn’t necessarily lead to igniting … Read More
3 Traits of great relationships
3 Traits of great relationships – Attraction, Alignment and Authenticity are the three essential ingredients for wonderful relationships, friendships and collaborations. Remove one of these ingredients and it just doesn’t quite work. An energetic pull that draws you together 1. Attraction is central to all our relationships. There is sexual attraction with our intimate partners, the spark of masculine and feminine … Read More
Clearing out the love junk
This morning I found myself trying on my dresses to decide which to keep and which to let go of. I was in doubt about one or two and then it was clear – only what enhances my feminine essence and radiance stays in my wardrobe, and what makes me feel ‘ok’ is going! I was clearing out the love junk. The masculine version of this is letting go … Read More