Men and Women – what goes wrong and comes right.

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Feeling unseen or unvalued?

Men and women come to the Living Love for Singles & Couples workshops with different goals and dreams, They may have problems to resolve, skills to learn, relationships to rescue, curiosity (and frustrations) about the opposite sex.

Our personal issues, fears and doubts, all lead to habitual contractions and protections. These restrict the flow of energy and love through the body. This keeps people stuck in  painful patterns.

Many of the workshop participants issues and concerns have a similar thread. And whatever the cause many are resolved in the energetic dance of the loving masculine and feminine.

Women often have protection and guardedness from past hurts and disappointments in relationships. Feeling they are ‘too much’ or ‘not enough.’ Becoming overly critical of men as a means of creating safety and distance. Transferring a lack of self-love onto a partner who is not loving them enough or in the ‘right way’. Believing that not being vulnerable, or feeling less, creates safety. Actually in the context of love and intimacy it is a primary energy that draws the masculine into relationship.

Men can be wary of commitment, concerned about the lack of freedom in relationship paired with a deep longing to be met by the feminine. Not being connected to the depth of freedom they already are. Not knowing the freedom in deep commitment and responsibility. Living in doubt about their masculine expression and wondering how to inspire deep love and support from a great woman. Lacking trustability by becoming lost in the feminine, or becoming a ‘pleaser’ disconnected from his own core. Or being dismissive as a means of protection.

The ways in which these issues are opened and resolved in the workshops is of course different for each person. And yet there are threads of understanding that are similar. When the feminine connects to her own love and beauty and values it, then she relates to the masculine from a very different place. She is sitting deeply in herself, allowing the flow of feeling and vulnerability. Anger and tears and deep yearning may be expressed, and received by the men. For many women this is very healing, to be real and to be loved and accepted by the masculine as she is. In her feminine essence, vulnerable, alive, powerful, fiercely loving. And to experience the masculine meeting her, encouraging her in that full flow of energy.

For the men there is the delight of meeting the loving feminine heart, being enlivened and informed by open feminine energy. Loving feedback gives him challenge and direction to adjust and deepen himself. He meets the trustable masculine in the other men and grows by that. He gets a truer reflection of the nobility and power of his own masculine essence. He tastes the freedom in his being and how to deepen that within commitment and responsibility. He experiences polarity with the feminine that is wild and free.

The practices, talks and sharings in the workshops are layered to allow the development of individual opening and deepening. For his and her core essence to be strengthened, and for the centre of an issue to reveal itself. A skillful balance of safety and risk creates a container that creates real shifts, and establishes a pathway for further transformation after the workshop.


If you would like to experience this and more come to our next Living Love workshop.


Cynthia Connop
About the author:
Cynthia Connop is a relationship consultant, international documentary filmmaker and the founder and facilitator of the Living Love programs.

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