Once you understand the basic nature of masculine and feminine essences and polarity, it is much easier to activate sexual passion and sexual polarity now.  In 30 seconds, or a little longer, you can activate your own sexual essence, alone or with a partner. This is how to amplify your essence when you only have a few minutes to do so.

Solo – for Him – sexual polarity now

* set a courageous intention for your day and take one action towards it.
* breathe down into your lower body, full and deep. Front and back.
* connect to the earth through your feet and root yourself into the ground.
* eye gaze at yourself in the mirror, without moving.
* take a warrior stance that is powerful for you, and hold it while breathing deeply.

Solo – for Her – sexual polarity now

* lift your arms and make a sphere around your body with your hands in a light, flowing way.
* place your hands on your womb and sink down into it, eyes closed.
* move your body wildly, prow and growl.
* do something you have never done before.
* in a private space stroke your own body as a lover would, feeling it.                                                                                     *touch the fabrics in your clothing, your wardrobe or in a shop. Enjoy the feel.

Couples – for couples who trust each other – sexual polarity now

Fundamentally sexual polarity is about one person occupying a masculine directional energy and the other person a surrendered feminine energy. These practices are for couples who have agreement about exploring masculine and feminine essence in a loving way.

For Him
* give her your undivided attention with full presence, with the attitude of worshipping her.  *direct her with your loving guidance to do something that benefits her.
* admire and verbally appreciate her body, her shape, her look, her sexiness.
* have a hot, fragrant bath ready for her when she gets home. Then leave her alone, wait.
* press her against the wall, lovingly, gently but firmly, so she has no choice but surrender.

For Her
* acknowledge him as your handsome hero, naming how he supports you.
* flirt with him, make no sense, be illogical, mysterious.
* show him your naked body when he doesn’t expect it, and then drift away….
* offer your feminine flow and bodily movement to evoke his presence.
* give him pleasure in the way that he likes.

With love and appreciation,

Cynthia

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The desire for love and the erotic union of masculine and feminine runs deep, and yet there is little teaching in how to actually achieve this. And what teaching or information we do have is primarily misguided.

We have been told that continual intimacy, complete honesty, and sharing everything with your partner makes for great relationship. But the truth is this doesn’t necessarily lead to igniting that spark of sexual polarity and passionate devotion that makes a relationship alive.

In fact passion can be killed off in the cosy warmth of domestic life. Too much honesty can hurt another person or create conflict. And I am not advocating lying or deception here, but rather a subtle compassion as to what needs to be shared with the other. We don’t need to hear the bad stuff when it is something we can’t change, better to celebrate and appreciate the good stuff.

And talking about psychological problems together needs to be limited. It can be useful at times for trust and understanding, but it doesn’t usually create desire and attraction.

Talking too much to your partner in general can lead to boredom and taking each other for granted. Or to thinking you know everything about them. Intimacy can lead to a brother/sister type of relating. We are actually changing all the time – and mystery is exciting.

Mystery and the pull of magnetic attraction

This mystery and the pull of magnetic attraction needs to have a sense of difference to ignite. And this can be created, maintained and nurtured within modern relationships.

Celebrating the different needs and gifts of masculine and feminine essences makes a relationship much more dynamic and sexy. Accepting this as a priority may mean less time spent together in favour of more aliveness and attraction.

I see how women want their men to be like their girlfriends, then they complain they are not manly enough. Men make their women into co-workers or buddies and wonder why the goddess no longer shows up. We cannot be everything to each other, it’s just not possible, or desirable. Look to your friends, family and the wider community to fulfil some of the needs and keep the relationship as the union of masculine and feminine essences. Of course occasionally we can be all of these things to each other, but if we are depending on it all the time, it leads to frustration and disappointment, and it doesn’t have to be that way.

If you are dating and opening up to a new partner

If you are dating and opening up to a new partner, then knowing how and when to magnify your own essence as an attractive force, and how to be spiritually sexy, is a great art to learn. Don’t give everything away, take your time, and let the energy build. Hold onto yourself and your essence, after all this is what is attracting the other to you. Enjoying time apart will make you both more keen to see each other. Dress up for your dates, be comfortable to be masculine or feminine. Appreciate each other.

The Union of Masculine and Feminine is not a merger, it’s a union of opposites that can dance together as a celebration of differences. The allure is from the unknown other, not from sameness.

with love and trust,

Cynthia

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Most of us have an idea of what it means to be sexy or to find someone else sexy. They have a vibrant sexual energy, are flirtatious, funny, open and available, confident, alluring, passionate. This can be highly desirable until we come across the spiritually sexy man or woman and it rocks our world. Are you spiritually sexy?

Being spiritually sexy means having an embodied masculine or feminine essence that is rooted both in the sexual and the sacred. We are familiar with spiritual value and actions  – meditation, kindness, service to others, higher self awareness, being light. Being spiritual and sexy is an ultimate fusion. Every cell of your body becomes energized with the sacred life force and this is realized in your life and relationships.

A sexy person is attractive, and that can be a good thing. But that can blind us to other things – do they have honourable intentions, or are they driven by narcissism or greed? For women it can take painful experiences to learn that the sexy lover who so beautifully tunes in and guides you on the dance floor, may not be the spiritually sexy man who will open you through a multitude of challenges in a long-term relationship. In face he may be a klutzy dancer.

Similarly men can be misled by a woman’s looks and ‘hot’ body shape that promises ultimate sensual fulfillment. Beauty is captivating and men may overlook a woman whose essence is enchanting on more subtle levels, a woman whose radiant heart will glow long after her looks change. Or a partner who will support him in his life mission, devoted to love and naturally challenge him to be a better man.

What are the spiritually sexy qualities of the masculine and feminine?

The spiritually sexy man helps other people wake up to a deeper reality. Others seek his guidance and are drawn to his energy. He’s real, about himself and others. No bullshit. No excuses. He isn’t swayed by distractions. When he commits to something, he means it. He stares death in the face.

A spiritually sexy man really gets who and what the glorious feminine is, and is fully surrendered to his desire. Unafraid, he revels in her, he protects her, he makes her life better. Letting himself be fully loved by his chosen women. He knows who he is, so he can meet her. His love embraces sickness, childbirth, ageing, emotions and the changes of life.

I asked some of the Living Love trainees what is spiritually sexy to them in men?

For Marga, he is ‘The man who loves to walk through his inner world without fear, who can meet me everywhere even when we fuck up, who can laugh with me, at our imperfections as we fall into bed or onto the forest floor or into the ocean or….or…… Oh – and a tool belt helps.’

Nicola finds a man on purpose appealing, ‘When a man stands strong in your feminine storm. When you’re grumpy and he spanks your bum or makes you laugh. When he follows his purpose but still gives you the depth of his presence to show you how important you are to him…. Oh and anything that involves practical stuff …. that I just can’t do!!!’

And for Ozlem, ‘Two words: Bradley Cooper. My idea of spiritually sexy. His presence, centeredness, deep blue eyes with a rich soul, goes for what he wants with no hesitation, the way he takes his woman, gentleness, his physique and open body, compassionate.’

 While Candace loves, ‘A deep warmth and kindness that is curl-up-and-let-go trustable. An unwavering inner stillpoint. More solid than an oak. Aligned with his integrity and connected to his heart.’

And what about spiritually sexy women?

For Matt, ‘When a woman makes herself available through eye contact, when she is in her body with expressive bodily movements eventuated at the hips, easy and open to communicate with…’

Many women try and fit an ideal. They want to be attractive and desirable and forget that deep men love a woman who is being herself. Her unique foibles are endearing and her connection to herself is vital.

Nick says, ‘For me spiritually sexy has little or nothing to do with physical beauty. It is a woman who is relaxed into her power and comfortable in her own skin.’

And for Graeme ‘I also find that woman that know themselves spiritually, are the ones that I often find the most attractive.’

Graeme went on to describe himself, ‘I feel alive and driven by a deep consciousness, whenever I fully allow myself to drop into my spiritual side completely. For me it has a feel of being ordinary, powerful, sexy and vulnerable...’

How do we attract a spiritually sexy partner? How do we be more spiritually sexy ourselves?

Being true to what matters to us in a partner has the power to call it forth in others. As Nick says, ‘She demands that I rise and meet that challenge with full presence and a heart so wide open I am at once incredibly vulnerable and supremely invincible.’

Knowing how to discern what is spiritually sexy, we may find that it does not fit the conventional stereotypes. Being willing to wait for a man or a woman that has these qualities or is developing them is essential. Not letting superficial desires distract you from the real deal. Hold true and the universe gets the message.

We attract our reciprocal. This means doing the work to open up, deepen, offer our gifts to others and receive theirs. To appreciate what we value in another, to name it helps it grow too.

What do you find spiritually sexy? Who is spiritually sexy to you? How can you be more spiritually sexy?

with love,

Cynthia

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