What do you have planned for Valentines Day? Maybe you are defaulting to a dinner out or picking up some last-minute droopy flowers, or doing nothing at all if you’d rather avoid it. I know it can be cringey (too commercial) or even painful, but it’s also an opportunity to build deeper, sacred sexy loving with your partner or with yourself. We do need to affirm love and intimacy daily so let’s start with just one day. How can you have a deeper and sexier Valentines Day?
One man I know told me he is aiming for three special events over the day for him and his wife: time in the morning connecting with eye-gazing and words of appreciation, a magical evening picnic in nature, and a lush-scented bath time when kids are asleep…
This is quite a high standard, and I love the idea of building up anticipation from morning until late in the evening, the whole day is then opened up and more deeply felt. And sexier. As many people are working and have children, breaking it up is a great way to fit Valentines Day around family life.
If you are single, it’s perfect to honour your own generous heart and love energy. Treating a friend and sharing deeply, doing something very nourishing for yourself, or spreading love wherever you go! A single man I know sends Valentines Day messages to all his single women friends. He appreciates their beauty and their loving hearts, making them feel special on this day of love.
Valentines Day is a chance to lift us beyond the mundane, the sameness of everyday and experience the magic. it can be daunting or scary to take the initiative but it’s worth it and it’s up to us!
It’s not about how much money we spend or the show we make, it’s about
- What will bring you closer together?
Experimenting with the new or a touch of nostalgia – do you need a new adventure or more remembering when you met and the music you shared and special things you feel for each other? What does your relationship need?
- What is sexier?
Romantic love will touch their heart. Sexy love takes it deeper. Sacred sexy love is touching the divine. Creating a sacred space can take just a few simple touches. Meditating or dancing together before slowly making love will honour your union, shared intentions and the pleasure of being together. Or a wild night out with you two as the absolute focus is sexy. Romance is a great beginning to flow into sexual intimacy, not as an expectation but as natural opening.
- What shows you’ve been listening, paying attention?
If they love foot massage you can include that, if they adore blue cheese get that, or fulfilling a sexual fantasy. Why not go for it? Perfection is not required – it’s your intention that counts.
- What honours yourself and/or your relationship?
Take a moment to reflect on why you would put in the effort on Valentines Day? Is it because love matters to you, sexiness matters to you, and sacred relationship matters to you. Because having a deeper and sexier and more sacred Valentines Day matters to you.
Now let’s get creative and see what we each can do.
Don’t wait to Love, and have fun with it.
Love
