In our modern world there are unique challenges for singles. Online dating and the internet culture can be hard to navigate. And its easy to get discouraged or depressed by no-show coffee dates, ghosting, rude online behaviour, even meeting nice people you are not really attracted to. But the desire for an intimate relationship doesn’t go away, it just gets … Read More
Love – From Grit to Gold
Love isn’t always soft and shining. Sometimes, it’s gritty. In this article I explore how to turn Love – From Grit to Gold. We enter relationships – or seek them – with hope. We want connection, passion, ease. But life brings stress, emotional walls, disconnection. Maybe your partner feels distant or overly pleasing. Maybe there is no partner, and you’re left … Read More
Loving and Connecting in the Modern World
Most of us want to feel deeply loved, connected, and passionately alive. To feel secure in our relationships and free in our expression. To have an erotic life that feels playful and vibrant. We yearn for intimacy that feels safe, meaningful and exciting. But how do we create this in a world that delivers crisis after crisis through the phones in our … Read More
Rewriting the Love Stories We Tell Ourselves
Have you ever noticed a voice in your head shaping how you see yourself and your relationships? Or perhaps you can hear it when you talk to other people about your relationship – or lack of one. It’s often clearer when listening to others talk about theirs, we can hear the underlying story. We may point the blame at others … Read More
A Deeper and Sexier Valentines Day
What do you have planned for Valentines Day? Maybe you are defaulting to a dinner out or picking up some last-minute droopy flowers, or doing nothing at all if you’d rather avoid it. I know it can be cringey (too commercial) or even painful, but it’s also an opportunity to build deeper, sacred sexy loving with your partner or with … Read More
The Path to Sacred Sex
Sacred sexuality is a different approach to lovemaking . Comparing it to ordinary sex is like comparing junk food with gourmet. But many of us are not shown the path to sacred sex, or we think it’s not for ordinary relationships. We can make it more complicated than it needs to be. Sacred sex, or tantric sex, is a deeply … Read More
Recharge Love & Intimacy at Christmas
The holiday season can be festive and meaningful, but it also often brings stress or loneliness. Despite our best intentions, we can end up feeling tense and irritable with our loved ones. Unrealistic expectations – often based on hyped up media images – can leave us disappointed. However, if we make it our priority to recharge love and intimacy at … Read More
From Impasse to Intimacy
This is the story of Gabe and Sarah* who worked with me to transform their struggling relationship. Can they move from impasse to intimacy? Gabe is 42, and Sarah is 38. They have been together for several years, hoping to build a long-term relationship and start a family. During couples counselling, Sarah reveals they’re on the verge of breaking up … Read More
2 Top Intimacy Questions
In my workshops and sessions, I often encounter similar questions from men, and different questions from women. Overall I find there are 2 top intimacy questions. Men’s Questions: Men frequently ask, “How can I get her to open up to me? How do I get her to trust me more? How can I be more attractive to the right one?” … Read More
Everyday Miracles for Couples
Everyday miracles for couples means that by infusing our day to day lives with love and a spark of attraction, things may still be tense, stressful or downright tough, but the flame that you are nurturing between you is real and even magical. When we first fall in love with the ‘other’ there is often a period of grace where … Read More