I hear it a lot – if your relationship isn’t working or you have had a painful break-up, or you are unhappily single, it is because of the big love myth “You have to love yourself first before anyone else will.” It has almost become a cliche, that self-love is the cure all. What comes to mind is images of … Read More
Push & Pull of Attraction
Often the push & pull of attraction is seen and mirrored in the body, in our body language, our presence. We do things that attract people or push them away. The dance of attraction between two people has many components but one that I often see is in the space between a couple. It can be as simple as he is leaning too far … Read More
Are You Really Listening?
In the therapeutic work I do with couples I find that being able to really listen to each other is a big factor in relationship satisfaction. And this is not just true for couples, it is important in all our relationships. In this article I want to share some insights and a case study to find out – Are you … Read More
Sacred Sexuality
Early on in my adult life I experienced some slow, sacred lovemaking, without knowing or defining it as sacred sexuality or tantra. I just felt that I entered into a transcendental energy. Years later it was spiritual teacher Osho that introduced me to the concept of tantra as an ancient philosophy and a spiritual path, the essence of which can … Read More
The Language of Love
The Language of Love Below I explore the Language of Love through the lens of the 3 Stages of Love. (You can check that out or read on). In each stage we can attempt to connect with another person deeply and intimately, with more or less success. With practice we may evolve through the stages. Or often we find ourselves … Read More
Renew your Love and Freedom
Love & Freedom – what do these words really mean? We don’t want to be paying lip service to some vague idea of being loving and free, and not seeing real positive shifts in our lives. Our world today is full of change and challenge. It is not like we can just make a yummy smoothie full of love and … Read More
How to Strengthen Relationships in Challenging Times
Why do some relationships get stronger, and some get weaker in traumatic circumstances? We often just don’t know how to strengthen relationships in challenging times. I live in Northern NSW Australia, an area that has been recently battered by severe flooding, and after two years of the pandemic there are constant trials and troubles for people not only here, but … Read More
5 Ways to Create (and keep) Attraction
Do you want to be wanted, and magnetic to love with a partner or future partner? Many of us do, and yet it isn’t always how we feel or what is happening. Attraction wanes, sex dies off, our spark is squished. How to create (and keep) attraction alive eludes us a lot of the time. When attraction works it’s a … Read More
The Union of Masculine and Feminine
The union of masculine and feminine is a wonderful meeting that can bloom in your own relationships and intimacy. It also shows a loving model for your family. Singles learn how to attract a partner who is their reciprocal, and this is sexy! In the pandemic era of the last two years, the lockdowns, isolation and divisions made it generally … Read More
Essential Masculine & Feminine Part 2
In my last blog Essential Masculine & Feminine Part 1 I explained the qualities of each essence and how the differences can work to create attraction and spark. In this Part 2 I suggest practical ways to increase masculine and feminine sexual essence. Whether you are single or in a relationship you can improve your well-being, relationships and sexual polarity. Let’s … Read More