The 3A’s of great relationships – Attraction, Alignment and Authenticity are the three essential ingredients for great relationships, friendships and collaborations. Remove one of these ingredients and it just doesn’t quite work. An energetic pull that draws you together 1. Attraction is central to all our relationships. There is sexual attraction with our intimate partners, the spark of masculine and feminine … Read More
The Boat and the Ocean: Why Menopause Isn’t Just Happening to Her
As a relationship coach, I work with couples and singles. Each has their own unique challenges and goals. But I also see struggles and patterns that are common to many people. And one I want to share with you here is what often happens inside a relationship during menopause and midlife. There’s a lot written about how menopause affects women. … Read More
The Elastic Band Effect (Why You Keep Snapping Back)
Over many years I have personally attended multiple growth workshops and trainings, made trips to ashrams in India, and done heaps of individual and couples therapy. Like many people attending I would usually have an amazing time of connection, growth and insights. Mind-blowing, awesome, deep. Then came the next step where I’m going back into daily life and the demands … Read More
Loving and Connecting in the Modern World
Most of us want to feel deeply loved, connected, and passionately alive. To feel secure in our relationships and free in our expression. To have an erotic life that feels playful and vibrant. We yearn for intimacy that feels safe, meaningful and exciting. But how do we create this in a world that delivers crisis after crisis through the phones in our … Read More
The Big Love Myth
I hear it a lot – if your relationship isn’t working or you have had a painful break-up, or you are unhappily single, it is because of the big love myth “You have to love yourself first before anyone else will.” It has almost become a cliche, that self-love is the cure all. What comes to mind is images of … Read More
5 Ways to more Love and Awareness
When we feel caught up in the day to day, or lost in our fears and thoughts, we can easily forget that Love and Awareness are available now and just a heartbeat away! And while I know it can be hard to make a shift, I also know that just a taste can be highly impactful and lead to an … Read More
How to Strengthen Relationships in Challenging Times
Why do some relationships get stronger, and some get weaker in traumatic circumstances? We often just don’t know how to strengthen relationships in challenging times. I live in Northern NSW Australia, an area that has been recently battered by severe flooding, and after two years of the pandemic there are constant trials and troubles for people not only here, but … Read More
The critic that kills love
We often read about the destructiveness of being critical of others, but what about when you are overly critical of yourself? The idea that we have an internal critical voice is not new. Most of us have some awareness that we can be overly critical of ourselves, our bodies, our performance. We even learn to not believe or listen to … Read More
Heart Open and Love Flowing
I have a photo of myself as a young child, wearing a blue corduroy pinafore made by my mother, a huge smile, eyes literally shining with eagerness. I was naturally open, as most of us are. And well cared for. I wasn’t abused, abandoned or neglected, and yet I started protecting my heart. What would it take to get my heart … Read More
Masculine and Feminine Truth
The masculine (doing consciousness energy) is extremely valuable, as is the feminine (feeling flowing energy). We all need both at different times. But the masculine and feminine energies are not something you want to balance out in yourself, to hold in equal amounts. If we do that we will have a lot of neutral people who don’t attract one another. … Read More