Women often ask “How do I get more of my needs met in a relationship? How can I get him to listen and be there for me? Where do I find a good partner who can truly meet me?”
The feminine wants to be appreciated, loved and seen. She wants the feelings that move through her to be accepted, her radiance to be enjoyed by the trustable masculine. When he is present with her, undistracted, without judgment or needing to fix her, then she opens up to him. And importantly, to herself. She wants to be met by his masculine presence and love.
Too often the masculine one is afraid of feminine feelings or confused what to do with them. He tries bringing logical solutions to help her or quickly shuts her down, it’s just too much ‘drama’. Or he withdraws to feel calm and centered again. Without even meaning to, this can make her feel invalidated, as her feeling nature is an important part of her. It’s not just her emotions, it’s her sensuality and intuition, her feminine wisdom.
When he can listen and appreciate her feelings, and she trusts him, then she also wants to be met by his ability to commit, claim and ravish her. So she can finally let-go and be her full feminine self.
What I often see though is that some women are not fully in touch with, or trusting their own feminine essence. Is she okay with her feelings and emotions and expressing herself freely in her body? Opening her heart can be challenging if there has been hurt in past relationships.
The right movement, dance, therapy, and other practices will be helpful for letting go of barriers to love. And softening into her vulnerability ignites her inner goddess. Ss she meets herself, this begins to answer the question, “How can I be met? Because if she doesn’t see herself, how will he or anyone else? If she doesn’t share her beauty and love with the world, how will she be seen or met?
And a deep fulfilment for her in relationship is to be met by the aware and present masculine, who doesn’t back down or run away from his own discomfort.
But, although she does want to be met, she may be scared or have unconsciously chosen someone who can’t match her. She may cut down and criticise him, the very one who wants to meet her. This just does not work. Or her expectations may be too big for any one human man to fulfill. So she experiences not being met and suffers with that.
When he can feel how full she is in her feminine flow, emotional honesty, and desire for deep sacred loving he is inspired. He is also inspired by her receptivity to his presence and masculine direction. He is attracted to her confidence and freedom to be herself and show him who she truly is. Then he wants to meet and claim her to the best of his ability.
It starts with each of us, and we only need to take small steps in the right direction.
In my workshops women experience, often for the first time, being deeply met. Whether coming with a partner or solo, she is met with loving masculine presence. This opens the door to that deeper claim and ravishment in her relatiosnhips. It is transformational.
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