The union of masculine and feminine is a wonderful meeting that can bloom in a couple’s relationship and intimacy.

Singles can learn how to attract a partner who is their reciprocal in the masculine and feminine energetic – and this is fulfilling and sexy!

In the post-pandemic era the trend towards online connection and isolation has made it generally harder for both singles and couples to find deep union, for different reasons. But it’s not impossible, as the examples below show.

One single man Josh* who I coached had been looking for a partner for over five years. He went on numerous dates via internet dating apps, but it never went beyond a second date. before long the women wanted to be ‘friends’ with him, telling him he was ‘a nice man’ and easy to talk to. But Josh didn’t need more women friends, he wanted a lover and a partner.

The majority of single people are not meant to be a balanced 50/50 of masculine and feminine energies, fully independent, with no need of their opposite essence. How dull would that be? In my work I support singles to reconnect with their own core essence. To bring out their own feminine radiance, beauty and flow. Or to honour and express their core masculine confidence, integrity and purpose.

In our sessions together he was able to identify that he did have a core masculine energy. However his past fears and experiences led him to hide his masculine essence. Some of this was from childhood relationship with his father, some from his adult experiences of rejection. Josh felt safer presenting more of his flowing, feeling side and wanted his partner to lead. So he wouldn’t make mistakes and be rejected further. But this meant he wasn’t very attractive to women with a more feminine essence, who don’t want to primarily lead from their own masculine in their intimate life.

Josh learnt to honour his own core essence and his authentic needs. This led to him being happier with himself. Soon he was able to make real connections with women, being in his masculine energy,  with the ability to be in his feminine energy as it felt right. And over several months,  he met a woman with who he was able to build a strong relationship, based on the art of polarity, the art of intimacy, love and freedom.
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Recently I also worked with a couple in their early forties*, he is an IT consultant, she is a successful, busy entrepreneur. They both work remotely from a small home and juggle childcare of their two young children between themselves and a centre. They don’t have family support close-by. The 24/7 proximity and the stress revealed the fault lines in their relationship, creating a lot of conflict. This is where they at when they reached out to me. As we explored what was going on, it also became clear that they had become ‘neutral’ energetically.  They had no differentiation of individual selves, except in their worklife. And no differeintation of masculine and feminine energies, therefore no magnetic attraction and polarity between them. This had led to a lack of intimacy and passion.

There was love and care for each other, but the union of masculine and feminine had been lost. They were not ‘lovers’ anymore. Throughout the sessions they connected with this possibility again and realised they would need to risk a greater vulnerability between them. A willingness to trust that they could be more fully themselves, and share it with the other.

Barriers slowly dropped away and old resentments began to heal. They also made practical changes, and things opened up for them. Even in their cramped space and schedule they made time to nurture their own energy and bring that to each other. They supported each other in this as well. The conflicts reduced as their union became more central, a greater priority than financial growth or extra sleep. And they began to do things they enjoyed again.

Love
Cynthia

*the details of the people in these case studies have been changed or merged to protect their privacy