Most of us want to feel deeply loved, connected, and passionately alive. To feel secure in our relationships and free in our expression. To have an erotic life that feels playful and vibrant. We yearn for intimacy that feels safe, meaningful and exciting. But how do we create this in a world that delivers crisis after crisis through the phones in our … Read More
Rewriting the Love Stories We Tell Ourselves
Have you ever noticed a voice in your head shaping how you see yourself and your relationships? Or perhaps you can hear it when you talk to other people about your relationship – or lack of one. It’s often clearer when listening to others talk about theirs, we can hear the underlying story. We may point the blame at others … Read More
A Deeper and Sexier Valentines Day
What do you have planned for Valentines Day? Maybe you are defaulting to a dinner out or picking up some last-minute droopy flowers, or doing nothing at all if you’d rather avoid it. I know it can be cringey (too commercial) or even painful, but it’s also an opportunity to build deeper, sacred sexy loving with your partner or with … Read More
The Path to Sacred Sex
Sacred sexuality is a different approach to lovemaking . Comparing it to ordinary sex is like comparing junk food with gourmet. But many of us are not shown the path to sacred sex, or we think it’s not for ordinary relationships. We can make it more complicated than it needs to be. Sacred sex, or tantric sex, is a deeply … Read More
Recharge Love & Intimacy at Christmas
The holiday season can be festive and meaningful, but it also often brings stress or loneliness. Despite our best intentions, we can end up feeling tense and irritable with our loved ones. Unrealistic expectations – often based on hyped up media images – can leave us disappointed. However, if we make it our priority to recharge love and intimacy at … Read More
From Impasse to Intimacy
This is the story of Gabe and Sarah* who worked with me to transform their struggling relationship. Can they move from impasse to intimacy? Gabe is 42, and Sarah is 38. They have been together for several years, hoping to build a long-term relationship and start a family. During couples counselling, Sarah reveals they’re on the verge of breaking up … Read More
2 Top Intimacy Questions
In my workshops and sessions, I often encounter similar questions from men, and different questions from women. Overall I find there are 2 top intimacy questions. Men’s Questions: Men frequently ask, “How can I get her to open up to me? How do I get her to trust me more? How can I be more attractive to the right one?” … Read More
Everyday Miracles for Couples
Everyday miracles for couples means that by infusing our day to day lives with love and a spark of attraction, things may still be tense, stressful or downright tough, but the flame that you are nurturing between you is real and even magical. When we first fall in love with the ‘other’ there is often a period of grace where … Read More
Sick of Online Dating?
Over the last twenty or so years, like many of you, I have been partnered and single and understand the unique challenges of both. Many of my single clients complain that they never meet good potential partners. And yet they are reluctant to try online dating. Or they have tried it, hated it, and given up. If you are sick … Read More
A Couples Transformational Journey
The transformational journey of Scott and Alice is an intimate unfolding that I have been honoured to witness and guide. I believe all the people I work with are courageous and each person’s transformational journey is unique but similar patterns to this couples case study show up frequently. The Initial Struggle Scott and Alice* are sitting in front of me. … Read More