3 Traits of great relationships – Attraction, Alignment and Authenticity are the three essential ingredients for wonderful relationships, friendships and collaborations. Remove one of these ingredients and it just doesn’t quite work. An energetic pull that draws you together 1. Attraction is central to all our relationships. There is sexual attraction with our intimate partners, the spark of masculine and feminine … Read More
Feeling unseen or unvalued?
Recently I did my first Facebook live video and it went very well! The main thing, as always, is getting started. One lovely comment was “It was like watching you in circle…confident, feminine and open….beautiful”, so that’s awesome feedback. Especially as a problem I had before doing my initial work on essence and polarity, (almost twenty years ago with the brilliant David Deida), was feeling unseen! Are … Read More
Clearing out the love junk
This morning I found myself trying on my dresses to decide which to keep and which to let go of. I was in doubt about one or two and then it was clear – only what enhances my feminine essence and radiance stays in my wardrobe, and what makes me feel ‘ok’ is going! I was clearing out the love junk. The masculine version of this is letting go … Read More
Life purpose – do you really need it?
This will largely depend on your core orientation to masculine or feminine essence. For the masculine essence, which is mostly men, purpose is central to his motivation. For the feminine essence, which is mostly women, love is central to her motivation. These days there is a lot of pressure to find your overarching life purpose. This will supposedly lead to greater … Read More
3 Love Myths revealed
Today I want to share with you my 3 Love Myths revealed. I am regularly coming across these myths in clients and I want to reveal the truth about these myths, because they inhibit and damage relationships. MYTH #1 ”I have to love myself before anyone else will. Otherwise I will attract the wrong sort of partner or bad behaviour from … Read More
What is sexier? What is most loving?
What is sexier? What is most loving? What question we ask has a profound effect on our lives and relationships. Let’s take some simple and frequent interactions between a couple. Who will put out the cat? Or plan the holidays? Who will take out the dirty rubbish? Who will wash up tonight? Or if you are dating – ‘Who will pay for … Read More
Food for Love
Have you ever wondered what makes the feminine or masculine happy in a relationship? What is food for love? Do you ever feel like your relationship is going stale or lacking appreciation? Are you longing to give and receive love in a way that opens you to more love? There are basic nutrients for love in a relationship such as … Read More
What a porn star taught me about Living Love
I’m sitting in a New York taxi, speeding across town as the day turns into night, and I’m a little apprehensive. I’m not quite sure what I am in for. What a porn star taught me about living love was to be a deep life lesson. It’s the early nineties and I am making a feature length documentary film called … Read More
Difficult emotions – how to handle them
I know from my own experience that unwanted or difficult emotions can be challenging. They can make you feel out of control, off purpose or simply distressed. Do you have bursts of anger that you later regret? Or do you experience an upwelling of sadness at unexpected moments? Do you find yourself often in emotional turmoil? Perhaps you suspect that your, or your partner’s emotions, are negatively effecting … Read More
Me, We, Us – stages of love.
Where are you putting your energy, thoughts and attention in your relationships? This makes a huge difference to the quality of love in your life. To make it simple we can understand it as the Me, We, Us stages of love.* Each stage of love builds on the other one, and we evolve through each stage, as does our wider … Read More