Protection, closing off physically and emotionally, is sometimes very necessary, but mostly it causes the harm it seeks to avoid. Here I am talking about unnecessary protection that usually comes from past fears. When we are younger we are naturally open, and we may be hurt, severely disappointed or traumatised. Therefore, we conclude it’s not safe to be open as … Read More
5 signs of reverse polarity
Reverse polarity can wreck your love life. It is often hard to recognise as a cause of relational stress. This is because it can look like the usual conflicts and problems caused by different personality or attachment styles. However, once you recognise it, then you can do something about it. 5 signs of reverse polarity in a relationship or dating are: 1. Constantly feeling … Read More
The Union of Masculine and Feminine
The desire for love and the erotic union of masculine and feminine runs deep, and yet there is little teaching in how to actually achieve this. And what teaching or information we do have is primarily misguided. We have been told that continual intimacy, complete honesty, and sharing everything with your partner makes for great relationship. But the truth is this doesn’t necessarily lead to igniting … Read More
3 Traits of great relationships
3 Traits of great relationships – Attraction, Alignment and Authenticity are the three essential ingredients for wonderful relationships, friendships and collaborations. Remove one of these ingredients and it just doesn’t quite work. An energetic pull that draws you together 1. Attraction is central to all our relationships. There is sexual attraction with our intimate partners, the spark of masculine and feminine … Read More
Clearing out the love junk
This morning I found myself trying on my dresses to decide which to keep and which to let go of. I was in doubt about one or two and then it was clear – only what enhances my feminine essence and radiance stays in my wardrobe, and what makes me feel ‘ok’ is going! I was clearing out the love junk. The masculine version of this is letting go … Read More
3 Love Myths revealed
Today I want to share with you my 3 Love Myths revealed. I am regularly coming across these myths in clients and I want to reveal the truth about these myths, because they inhibit and damage relationships. MYTH #1 ”I have to love myself before anyone else will. Otherwise I will attract the wrong sort of partner or bad behaviour from … Read More
What is sexier? What is most loving?
What is sexier? What is most loving? What question we ask has a profound effect on our lives and relationships. Let’s take some simple and frequent interactions between a couple. Who will put out the cat? Or plan the holidays? Who will take out the dirty rubbish? Who will wash up tonight? Or if you are dating – ‘Who will pay for … Read More
Food for Love
Have you ever wondered what makes the feminine or masculine happy in a relationship? What is food for love? Do you ever feel like your relationship is going stale or lacking appreciation? Are you longing to give and receive love in a way that opens you to more love? There are basic nutrients for love in a relationship such as … Read More
What a porn star taught me about Living Love
I’m sitting in a New York taxi, speeding across town as the day turns into night, and I’m a little apprehensive. I’m not quite sure what I am in for. What a porn star taught me about living love was to be a deep life lesson. It’s the early nineties and I am making a feature length documentary film called … Read More
Difficult emotions – how to handle them
I know from my own experience that unwanted or difficult emotions can be challenging. They can make you feel out of control, off purpose or simply distressed. Do you have bursts of anger that you later regret? Or do you experience an upwelling of sadness at unexpected moments? Do you find yourself often in emotional turmoil? Perhaps you suspect that your, or your partner’s emotions, are negatively effecting … Read More