Worship – “the act of giving worth to something”. How do we integrate worship and sexual essence – masculine, combining the sacred and the ordinary? Recently I saw a ‘shiva lingam’* in nature. On a wild beach a branch was set upright into a tree trunk base. It was a powerful symbol and I felt spontaneously moved to adorn it. … Read More
4 Myths of Masculine & Feminine Essence
Dissolving 4 myths of masculine & feminine essence that are currently predominating and causing confusion. Myth 1. We are best when we have a balance of masculine and feminine A balance would have us all being equally masculine and feminine in our energy, and while we are equal, we are not the same. This neutrality would give no polarity between … Read More
The special ingredient in life and love
I’m in Shanghai running Living Love workshops and seeing yet again there is one thing that really makes a difference to the quality of our energy and life experience. The special ingredient in life and love is Being of Service to others. Now you may think ‘Oh, I know that’ or ‘I’m burnt out doing that’ or ‘That’s not sexy’ but … Read More
Evolve or improve?
When is it time to give up self-improvement? ‘Evolve or improve?’ is a worthwhile question on the path of love and freedom. Could our desire to learn and improve be a major obstacle? Lean into your edge where improvement stops and evolution begins. Improvement is something we do when learning a skill. As part of human growth we get better at … Read More
Energy traps and delights
Our masculine and feminine essences bring promises and pitfalls, energy traps and delights. And it’s often just a whisker that makes the difference between what creates more love and what creates suffering. Knowing your masculine and feminine essence, self-inquiry and feedback from your trustable peers is very helpful. Here I have outlined a few key energy traps and energy delights … Read More
Freedom is sexy
What is freedom? Basically it is the liberty to direct the course of our own life, to move around freely, to make our own decisions. Freedom is so valuable that we take it away as the ultimate punishment for criminals. And the experience of inner freedom is highly sought after. People who have achieved inner freedom are sexy. And powerful. We can feel … Read More
Protection and letting go
Protection, closing off physically and emotionally, is sometimes very necessary, but mostly it causes the harm it seeks to avoid. Here I am talking about unnecessary protection that usually comes from past fears. When we are younger we are naturally open, and we may be hurt, severely disappointed or traumatised. Therefore, we conclude it’s not safe to be open as … Read More
5 signs of reverse polarity
Reverse polarity can wreck your love life. It is often hard to recognise as a cause of relational stress. This is because it can look like the usual conflicts and problems caused by different personality or attachment styles. However, once you recognise it, then you can do something about it. 5 signs of reverse polarity in a relationship or dating are: 1. Constantly feeling … Read More
The Union of Masculine and Feminine
The desire for love and the erotic union of masculine and feminine runs deep, and yet there is little teaching in how to actually achieve this. And what teaching or information we do have is primarily misguided. We have been told that continual intimacy, complete honesty, and sharing everything with your partner makes for great relationship. But the truth is this doesn’t necessarily lead to igniting … Read More
3 Traits of great relationships
3 Traits of great relationships – Attraction, Alignment and Authenticity are the three essential ingredients for wonderful relationships, friendships and collaborations. Remove one of these ingredients and it just doesn’t quite work. An energetic pull that draws you together 1. Attraction is central to all our relationships. There is sexual attraction with our intimate partners, the spark of masculine and feminine … Read More