Perhaps it is due to the confined intimacy of recent Covid lockdowns, but this issue is coming up more frequently in sessions for couples and would-be couples. A source of frustration for many is that the person with the more feminine essence (often the woman) is sick of tidying up after her partner with the more masculine essence (often the … Read More
The critic that kills love
We often read about the destructiveness of being critical of others, but what about when you are overly critical of yourself? The idea that we have an internal critical voice is not new. Most of us have some awareness that we can be overly critical of ourselves, our bodies, our performance. We even learn to not believe or listen to … Read More
Masculine & feminine ‘languages’
Do you feel like you and your partner, or date, speak a different language? Are there masculine and feminine ‘languages’? Masculine and feminine essence do have different ‘languages’ and it makes a big difference to the quality of your relationship to know and understand them. This is a subject close to my heart. I find this is an area that causes a … Read More
Romantic or Tantric Lover?
Are you a romantic or tantric lover? Or both? Romantic love was an invention of courtly England in the 16th century when knights used it to woo the unattainable princess. It was an ideal of unrequited love that sparked minstrel serenades full of longing for the fair beloved, romantic poems and the code of chivalry. Today romance is often used … Read More
Devotional Love
Devotion: Love, loyalty, or enthusiasm for a person or an activity. What or who are you devoted to in your life? Devotional love is a type of love imprint. When someone is captivated by their devotion to a person, a cause, or an activity, they will do anything to support it. Both masculine and feminine essence experience devotion, in different … Read More
Heart Open and Love Flowing
I have a photo of myself as a young child, wearing a blue corduroy pinafore made by my mother, a huge smile, eyes literally shining with eagerness. I was naturally open, as most of us are. And well cared for. I wasn’t abused, abandoned or neglected, and yet I started protecting my heart. What would it take to get my heart … Read More
Coronavirus – Couples and singles tips for lockdown
With the current pandemic, we have restrictions on how we live and work. With the Easter holiday starting, these Coronavirus – Couples and singles tips for lockdown or isolation will be especially helpful. FOR COUPLES If you are a couple suddenly together in isolation then you may be running into some problems. Old patterns and conflicts resurfacing, sexual issues unresolved. … Read More
Tantric love – Sexual healing
Sexual healing can be transformational whether you are sexually partnered or going solo. For some people their sexuality is a free flow of pleasure and intimacy. Unfortunately, for many there are roadblocks, both physical and psychological. These blocks can have a big impact on our intimate relationships. Tantric love – sexual healing, they go together. Sexuality is a very powerful … Read More
Better sex, better you?
Most people want better sex, more sex or even ideal sex. Some people want less sex (than their partner does). Sex is a big motivator in our lives. The desire for physical intimacy and real love is natural and ageless. When that is not happening fully to our satisfaction, or not at all, we start wondering what we can do … Read More
What kills love. (Be in your own life)
There is one habit that I have encountered that is one of the most destructive and painful things our minds can do – comparison. Rating ourselves against others in a way that produces superiority or inferiority. Comparison kills love. Comparing ourselves creates separation and hinders our relationships, steals our success and our creativity. This is true whether we make a … Read More