What is sexier? What is most loving? What question we ask has a profound effect on our lives and relationships. Let’s take some simple and frequent interactions between a couple. Who will put out the cat? Or plan the holidays? Who will take out the dirty rubbish? Who will wash up tonight? Or if you are dating – ‘Who will pay for … Read More
Food for Love
Have you ever wondered what makes the feminine or masculine happy in a relationship? What is food for love? Do you ever feel like your relationship is going stale or lacking appreciation? Are you longing to give and receive love in a way that opens you to more love? There are basic nutrients for love in a relationship such as … Read More
What a porn star taught me about Living Love
I’m sitting in a New York taxi, speeding across town as the day turns into night, and I’m a little apprehensive. I’m not quite sure what I am in for. What a porn star taught me about living love was to be a deep life lesson. It’s the early nineties and I am making a feature length documentary film called … Read More
Difficult emotions – how to handle them
I know from my own experience that unwanted or difficult emotions can be challenging. They can make you feel out of control, off purpose or simply distressed. Do you have bursts of anger that you later regret? Or do you experience an upwelling of sadness at unexpected moments? Do you find yourself often in emotional turmoil? Perhaps you suspect that your, or your partner’s emotions, are negatively effecting … Read More
Me, We, Us – stages of love.
Where are you putting your energy, thoughts and attention in your relationships? This makes a huge difference to the quality of love in your life. To make it simple we can understand it as the Me, We, Us stages of love.* Each stage of love builds on the other one, and we evolve through each stage, as does our wider … Read More
How structure effects masculine and feminine essence
How much structure we have in our lives effects our masculine and feminine essence in different ways. If you are a man spending a lot of your time in unstructured feminine flow can feel enormously pleasurable, but over time it will start to feel disturbing, unsettling and disempowering. If you are a woman and you do have not much structure in your life, strangely this … Read More
Strengthen your masculine or feminine essence
You will not be surprised that one of my favorite subjects is masculine and feminine essence and polarity. When this union and interplay is working well we feel enlivened, authentic, and like we have come home to ourselves. When it isn’t working so well we can feel uncomfortable, deadened, exhausted and uninspired with life or with our relationships. Or just having a sense that something could be better, or the passion is missing. … Read More
Living a Passionate Life – Part 4 The breath is a key to openness and presence
The breath is fundamental as it allows us to live full and open, rather than shallow or contracted, in our energy, emotions and offerings. The breath is the life force and it also directs the flow of energy in our bodies and minds. Most of us are aware that when we are stressed and anxious our breathing comes fast and high up in the chest, … Read More
Living a Passionate Life – Part 3 Integrating our shadows and kinks
Darker energy creates more passion, and it gives us the rocket fuel to create our heart-goals – both in our relationships and in our work spheres. And how do we integrate these powerful forces to be living a more passionate life? This article Living a Passionate Life – Part 3 continues the series. Below are practical, real suggestions that help us … Read More
Living a Passionate Life – Part 2 Balancing the masculine and feminine interplay
Are you longing or waiting for your partner to be different? Would you like them to be more surrendered, or more directional and claiming, in the relationship? Do you find yourself repressing your true intimacy needs because it seems so hard to find the right balance with another? If you are single, are you attracting people that don’t really meet you where you … Read More