Are you longing or waiting for your partner to be different? Would you like them to be more surrendered, or more directional and claiming, in the relationship? Do you find yourself repressing your true intimacy needs because it seems so hard to find the right balance with another? If you are single, are you attracting people that don’t really meet you where you want to be be met? The approach here in Living a Passionate Life – Part 2 Balancing the energetic masculine and feminine interplay, is often the remedy for these issues.
“We think the problem lies in the other person”
The energy we are putting out is often the key cause of these problems. Usually we are not aware of it, and we think the problem lies in the other person. But if we are dominating in an energetic area, then our partner or potential partners can naturally default into the polarized opposite position. If you are dominating the masculine space they will often move into the feminine, and vice versa.
If you want more surrender (feminine) from your partner then wind back your own surrendering, devotional energies and give them the space to be that. Be less going with the flow, less feeling it all, and less inviting with your radiance. Be more directional.
“winding back your own penetrative, guiding energies”
If you want your partner to be more claiming and directional (masculine), try winding back your own penetrative, guiding energies. Do less of making plans, holding space, or giving advice. This gives the other the space to go more into their own masculine energy.
The first step is being aware of what you are longing for, or missing. Notice the things you are giving up on, believing you will never find in a partner. Breathe, and notice how can you energetically pull back on those qualities in yourself? How can you make a gap for them to step into? Experiment, explore and have fun with it.
“It’s about what you are longing to have in your love-dance”.
It doesn’t have to be gender specific. It can be very sexy for men to have their woman exhibit dominance, and women can often find it thrilling when a man surrenders to their feminine power. It’s about what you are longing to have in your energetic love-dance. When you have the awareness to see what is happening and the skill to adjust and cultivate new energies, this is the art of loving polarity.
I trust that Living a Passionate Life – Part 2 has aroused some thoughts about where you can make a difference to the interplay of masculine and feminine energies.
with love
(LIVING A PASSIONATE LIFE Part 1 is here. Part 3 is here. Part 4 is here.)
