In intimate relationships, things can go wrong for a variety of reasons, including poor communication (why can’t they just listen!), lack of trust (he never changes), infidelity (she betrayed me) and differences in values or goals. These problems can lead to feelings of hurt, frustration, and resentment, and the resulting struggles can cause the deterioration of the relationship. Transforming intimacy: … Read More
5 Tips for Your Intimacy Recharge
Christmas holidays are coming up and for many people it’s a time for family, friends, parties or just having a quiet break to restore and recharge after a busy year. Why not use this time to reignite your intimate life, whether you are single or partnered? Here are 5 Tips for Your Intimacy recharge. Our sexual energy and intimacy are natural … Read More
Being so caring isn’t so sexy
Are you stuck in being too caring in your relationships? Do you feel love but not attraction for your partner? Are you dating people who want you to be their friend but not their lover? Many of us are taught that it is good to be kind, caring, supportive and helpful in relationships. We are not told that this can … Read More
The Big Love Myth
I hear it a lot – if your relationship isn’t working or you have had a painful break-up, or you are unhappily single, it is because of the big love myth “You have to love yourself first before anyone else will.” It has almost become a cliche, that self-love is the cure all. What comes to mind is images of … Read More
5 Ways to more Love and Awareness
When we feel caught up in the day to day, or lost in our fears and thoughts, we can easily forget that Love and Awareness are available now and just a heartbeat away! And while I know it can be hard to make a shift, I also know that just a taste can be highly impactful and lead to an … Read More
Are You Really Listening?
In the therapeutic work I do with couples I find that being able to really listen to each other is a big factor in relationship satisfaction. And this is not just true for couples, it is important in all our relationships. In this article I want to share some insights and a case study to find out – Are you … Read More
The Language of Love
The Language of Love Below I explore the Language of Love through the lens of the 3 Stages of Love. (You can check that out or read on). In each stage we can attempt to connect with another person deeply and intimately, with more or less success. With practice we may evolve through the stages. Or often we find ourselves … Read More
Renew your Love and Freedom
Love & Freedom – what do these words really mean? We don’t want to be paying lip service to some vague idea of being loving and free, and not seeing real positive shifts in our lives. Our world today is full of change and challenge. It is not like we can just make a yummy smoothie full of love and … Read More
5 Ways to Create (and keep) Attraction
Do you want to be wanted, and magnetic to love with a partner or future partner? Many of us do, and yet it isn’t always how we feel or what is happening. Attraction wanes, sex dies off, our spark is squished. How to create (and keep) attraction alive eludes us a lot of the time. When attraction works it’s a … Read More
Love Your Way at Christmas
I am writing this blog leading up to Christmas in the midst of a new wave of COVID and for many people living in Australia our restrictions have relaxed, while in other countries they are ramping up again. We are each finding our way in amongst the changing nature of the pandemic, the heartache, the safety versus risk decisions we … Read More