Perhaps it is due to the confined intimacy of recent Covid lockdowns, but this issue is coming up more frequently in sessions for couples and would-be couples. A source of frustration for many is that the person with the more feminine essence (often the woman) is sick of tidying up after her partner with the more masculine essence (often the … Read More
2 mistakes to avoid in relationships
1. One of the 2 mistakes to avoid in relationships that can happen between masculine and feminine is confusing direction and surrender, for adult and child patterning. The masculine has the gift of direction, leading, setting goals. The feminine has the gift of surrender, following, creativity. When these two energies are interacting in polarity each person is respecting and enjoying … Read More
Do people change?
Do people change? We are all changing constantly, growing, ageing, learning about life, so the answer is ‘Yes of course’. Do people change deep-set patterns and habits, angry tendencies, crippling fear, lack of will etc? Yes, they can and do, but many will not. They don’t get the right support, or they don’t yet know they can change these things. Their … Read More
Masculine & feminine ‘languages’
Do you feel like you and your partner, or date, speak a different language? Are there masculine and feminine ‘languages’? Masculine and feminine essence do have different ‘languages’ and it makes a big difference to the quality of your relationship to know and understand them. This is a subject close to my heart. I find this is an area that causes a … Read More
Romantic or Tantric Lover?
Are you a romantic or tantric lover? Or both? Romantic love was an invention of courtly England in the 16th century when knights used it to woo the unattainable princess. It was an ideal of unrequited love that sparked minstrel serenades full of longing for the fair beloved, romantic poems and the code of chivalry. Today romance is often used … Read More
Devotional Love
Devotion: Love, loyalty, or enthusiasm for a person or an activity. What or who are you devoted to in your life? Devotional love is a type of love imprint. When someone is captivated by their devotion to a person, a cause, or an activity, they will do anything to support it. Both masculine and feminine essence experience devotion, in different … Read More
Heart Open and Love Flowing
I have a photo of myself as a young child, wearing a blue corduroy pinafore made by my mother, a huge smile, eyes literally shining with eagerness. I was naturally open, as most of us are. And well cared for. I wasn’t abused, abandoned or neglected, and yet I started protecting my heart. What would it take to get my heart … Read More
Our Purpose? To Love Fully and Deeply
These days there is a lot of pressure to find your overarching life purpose. This will supposedly lead to greater clarity, focus and a more satisfying life. If this purpose is noble and serves others, even better. It seems we must all be on a quest to find and live our purpose to make our lives meaningful. Our purpose – … Read More
The Art of Loving Disagreements
I used to avoid disagreements but now I know the art of loving disagreements I use them as a tool of growth and self-enquiry. And I realised there is potentially a lot of passion in fighting. When I am in conflict, I notice what is going on in my body. Perhaps I am actually ‘digging in my heels’, getting ‘hot … Read More
The True Essence of Sexual Maturity
Losing Myself to Find Myself In my youth I had a natural radiance and embodied vitality. I call it the ‘free radiance’ of young women. In my reproductive years I was in my feminine prime; strong, free, sexually alive. As I traversed fifty and beyond, the hormonal wheels slowed down and the fertility cycle eventually ended. I, and many female … Read More